Friday, July 3, 2015

The Cost of Adoption

The Cost of Adoption

First, for those not in the adoption community, adoption is expensive!

For single mom's this process can be somewhat overwhelming as many of the grants and adoption loans available to married couples are not open to them.

I wanted to share where I am in this process. I have one more agency payment that is over $3000.00 dollars. Thankfully due to some very generous donations and tee shirt sales I have over half of that in hand. How I thank God for his provision and for those that gave and bought tee shirts!

China travel and fees are next up! Last trip I had to wire over $18,000 dollars to China to cover China travel, hotels, orphanage fees and the other miscellaneous fees that make an adoption possible.

In addition to this I have my airfare to and from China to pay for. Last trip this was right at $5,000 dollars.

I will also have to get another China visa for my passport and I'm sure there are some other miscellaneous fees I haven thought about at this writing.

Adoption is expensive! Adoption is worth every penny spent! I have been blessed with four amazing girls. They are kind, loving, talented and strong. I will say this again, any hardship that I face in the adoption process pales in comparison to what these girls would face if left unadopted!

Can you imagine "aging out" at the age of 14! The day a child turns 14 they have lost all hope of having a family! Depending of the orphanage these kids are sent to live on their own between the age of 16-18! Now let's put this in prospective, these kids at best have an elementary education, they have grown up without a family and are very naive to the ways of the world. Now let's add the fact that orphans are considered "bad luck" so shop owners will not hire them and if they have a physical disability that makes things even more difficult! How do they stand a chance?

Did you know that many of these kids commit suicide within a year of being sent out on their own or worse yet they end up being trafficked! 

There are those called to adopt the little children and babies, however there are those of us that have a heart for those that are "aging out," those with a last chance for a family, that that have been over looked for years!

Did you know that Eden was adopted just days before she turned 14? Mackinley was just three months away from her 14th birthday! Avery will turn 14 in December, time is quickly running out for her!

My next fundraiser will be a Yeti Tundra 35 Cooler. The drawing will be August 15th just in time for those college tailgate gatherings!

One ticket for $10.00 and Three tickets for $25.00

You can enter via the donate button on the blog or message me for my address.

Adoption makes a difference and I am thankful that God has allowed me to be a part of his plan for me daughters. 

Until next time!


Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Tee Shirts for Avery

We are selling tee shirts to help bring our Avery home! 

Ways to order! 
#1 You can place your order via the donate button on the right side of this blog. Once your order is placed I will send you a message asking about your size and color choice.

#2 You can also send me a message and I'll send you my address and you can mail in your order.

This fundraiser will end July 1st! Once the tee shirts are delivered to me I will mail them out ASAP!



Short Sleeves
Small - XL $20.00
XXL $21.00
XXXL $22.00

Colors: Ant. Heliconia, Ant.Saphire, Cherry Red, Charcoal, Dark chocolate, Heather Irish Green, Heather Navy, Heather Purple, Light Blue, White

Long Sleeves
Small - XL $25.00
XXL $26.00
XXXL $27.00

Colors: Black, Cherry Red, Charcoal, Dark Chocolate,
Navy, White

YOUTH SHORT SLEEVE
Youth Small - XL $20.00
Colors: Black, Heliconia, Cherry Red, Dark Chocolate, Lite Blue, Purple, Navy, Charcoal, White

YOUTH LONG SLEEVE
Youth Small - XL $25.00

Colors: Black, Charcoal, Red, Lite Pink, Lite Blue, Purple, Navy, White



Thursday, June 18, 2015

Last Call for Tee Shirts for Avery




Short Sleeves
Small - XL $20.00
XXL $21.00
XXXL $22.00

Colors: Ant. Heliconia, Ant.Saphire, Cherry Red, Charcoal, Dark chocolate, Heather Irish Green, Heather Navy, Heather Purple, Light Blue, White

Long Sleeves
Small - XL $25.00
XXL $26.00
XXXL $27.00

Colors: Black, Cherry Red, Charcoal, Dark Chocolate,
Navy, White

YOUTH SHORT SLEEVE
Youth Small - XL $20.00
Colors: Black, Heliconia, Cherry Red, Dark Chocolate, Lite Blue, Purple, Navy, Charcoal, White

YOUTH LONG SLEEVE
Youth Small - XL $25.00

Colors: Black, Charcoal, Red, Lite Pink, Lite Blue, Purple, Navy, White

Friday, June 5, 2015

Treasure the moments

It takes time  . . .
  • to grieve
  • to accept the new normal
  • to learn
  • to love
Kendall and Journey have been home three years, while Eden and Mackinley it has been 21 months!

Compared to many our transition has been smooth yet like all adoptive families we have had our bumps in the road.

The girls have a strong desire to learn English and are working hard. One child went through a phase during her grief where she only grunted her answers, not any more! Her grief was long and hard, she is showing who she really is and what a delightful wonderful child.

Another one of the girls is coming and sitting on my lap for hugs and snuggles. She still only allows kisses on the top of her head! I'll take that! Baby steps!

One child asked why God let her stay in a poor orphanage for 12 years? How does one answer that?

To think we are coming out of so much grief is such a relief yet we will soon be heading right back into a time of grief and adjustment for another precious child as she learns to transition to a whole new way of life.

Loving my girls through this time reminds me how much my heavenly father loves me when I'm less than lovable! I am thankful for His love and care in my life as I transition into becoming more like him!

Until next time . . .

Sunday, May 31, 2015

Photo overload, fun times!

We are still selling Tee Shirts for Avery, for sizes and colors see this link!


While we wait for Avery, we have been having lots of fun!

Kendall loves having her photo made!
Did you notice the bubbles in the background?


Kendall wrapped in a Christmas throw from the car!
It was cold!
Journey not so excited to have her photo taken!


Mackinley, wants to be a teacher and is working hard to master English!


My sister, Bobie, and her husband, Don!

If something should happen where I cannot care for the girls, Bobie and Don will become their guardians!
I know they will love and care for them which gives me great peace!


 The girls were able to enjoy the pool at Aunt Bobie and Uncle Don's hotel!


Come on in . . . the water was cold!









Bobie teaching the non-swimmers to float!


Eden floating, she worked so hard and mastered it before she left the pool!


Bobie showing that Eden is floating without support!


Bobie and Don working with Mackinley!
She wants to learn to swim and worked hard to overcome her fear!





These two enjoying the hot tub!


Kendall's turn to check out the hot tub!



Mackinley's first time in a pool was nearly two years ago in Guangzhou, China. She was so nervous and afraid of the water. With Aunt Bobie's help she learned to relax enough to float. This is a huge step forward! I'm so proud of my girl!


 My all time favorite photo of the girls!
It is rare for me to catch Journey with such a natural smile! This one makes my heart happy!





Journey knows how to swim and is very comfortable in the pool. She was doing handstands and underwater flips!


Kendall is fearless (and strong)! 
She loves to dunk her sisters!















Time for an outdoor picnic!


Next, banana splits!





The girls created their own banana split!
Fun times!


Then it was create your own pizza night!






Eden put her cheese in a heart shape!


Last but not least, Kendall with brown bear!


We work hard and occasionally we take time out for a little fun! I feel so blessed to be allowed to share life with these precious girls!

Until next time . . .